You ever feel like you’ve been riding the same ride, day in, day out, and nothing’s changing? Nothing’s going wrong – hey, things are actually going pretty well overall – but you just feel… stuck.
Don’t worry, we’ve all been there.
1. Don’t panic
Take a step back for a minute. Take some deep breaths and give your horse a pat, or get off and save him for another day. Unless you’re on your way to Badminton next year, you can chill out. Take a minute to appreciate the things that are going well and the things that you enjoy, even if it’s just the extra 5 minutes you took to groom your horse earlier, or the fact that he only spooked at his own shadow twice today. One time my OTTB decided that simple turns on the forehand were rear-inducing, so I got off him and made sure he had them nailed down in hand. Spoiler alert – he didn’t.
2. Make a plan
Have a think about why you feel stuck. Is your routine lacking variation? Are your half passes not clicking despite working on them for weeks? Or is something just not quite right? Knowing the answers to these questions will be your greatest ally when it comes to tackling this mental stagnation.
Once you’ve spent a bit of time sitting with your thoughts (terrifying, I know), write them down in a problem-solution format. For example, if your problem is a lack of variation, your solution could be to ride a different hacking route, or go to a pole clinic, or even ride in your horse’s field bareback if other options aren’t accessible to you. If your problem is your half passes (although when are they not a problem?), then solutions could include having a lesson, practising them on hacks, or going back to basics and solidifying more basic lateral movements such as turns on the forehand and leg yields. Once you’ve made your plan and can tick off steps as you go, the situation suddenly looks more manageable.
Don’t fall into the trap of overcomplicating your plan – you don’t need to plan every step, or be looking months or years into the future – just a few small, easily achievable changes to make so that you can tick something off and feel like you’ve accomplished something. I, for some reason, have a tendency to buy cheap, feral youngsters online, and sometimes the plan can be as simple as 1) touch the horse without getting bitten, 2) get a head collar on it, 3) walk it around the arena without dying. Seriously, you’re doing great. Baby steps.
3. Take the pressure off
Sometimes all you need is to stop taking it so seriously – we’re supposed to be enjoying these stupid creatures, aren’t we? Go gallop up a field. Ride to a pub with a mate. I don’t care – just do something novel, and bring some enjoyment back into this bottomless money pit that we call a sport. An easy way to do this can be to switch disciplines for a day – so dressage riders can shorten their stirrups and hop over a cross pole, and the show jumpers can swing their legs around in too-long stirrups and perfect their lateral work (and lets face it, you’ve been putting this off for months already, haven’t you?). You eventers are greedy aren’t you – hogging all the disciplines – so maybe you could put your reins in one hand and try neck reining? Or finally jump some of those hedges that you’ve been eyeing up on your hacks? You know you want to – just don’t take it too far. I thought that trying to jump my mum’s cob with no reins or stirrups was a genius idea until I found myself rather unceremoniously thrown into a fence. Know your limits I guess.
We put too much pressure on ourselves – and that’s a good thing when its driving passion and progress, but sometimes we just need to chill out a bit. Once we let go of that nagging feeling that we should always be doing something quicker, better, or just different, motivation often finds us again when we’re least expecting it.
I think the only thing left to say at this point is just be kind to yourself. We all feel like we’ve hit a wall at times, and that’s okay. Take a deep breath, make a plan, and enjoy yourself. The rest will sort itself out.
