Tag: mentality

What to do When You Hit a Wall

You ever feel like you’ve been riding the same ride, day in, day out, and nothing’s changing? Nothing’s going wrong – hey, things are actually going pretty well overall – but you just feel… stuck.

Don’t worry, we’ve all been there.

1. Don’t panic

Take a step back for a minute. Take some deep breaths and give your horse a pat, or get off and save him for another day. Unless you’re on your way to Badminton next year, you can chill out. Take a minute to appreciate the things that are going well and the things that you enjoy, even if it’s just the extra 5 minutes you took to groom your horse earlier, or the fact that he only spooked at his own shadow twice today. One time my OTTB decided that simple turns on the forehand were rear-inducing, so I got off him and made sure he had them nailed down in hand. Spoiler alert – he didn’t.

2. Make a plan

Have a think about why you feel stuck. Is your routine lacking variation? Are your half passes not clicking despite working on them for weeks? Or is something just not quite right? Knowing the answers to these questions will be your greatest ally when it comes to tackling this mental stagnation.

Once you’ve spent a bit of time sitting with your thoughts (terrifying, I know), write them down in a problem-solution format. For example, if your problem is a lack of variation, your solution could be to ride a different hacking route, or go to a pole clinic, or even ride in your horse’s field bareback if other options aren’t accessible to you. If your problem is your half passes (although when are they not a problem?), then solutions could include having a lesson, practising them on hacks, or going back to basics and solidifying more basic lateral movements such as turns on the forehand and leg yields. Once you’ve made your plan and can tick off steps as you go, the situation suddenly looks more manageable.

Don’t fall into the trap of overcomplicating your plan – you don’t need to plan every step, or be looking months or years into the future – just a few small, easily achievable changes to make so that you can tick something off and feel like you’ve accomplished something. I, for some reason, have a tendency to buy cheap, feral youngsters online, and sometimes the plan can be as simple as 1) touch the horse without getting bitten, 2) get a head collar on it, 3) walk it around the arena without dying. Seriously, you’re doing great. Baby steps.

3. Take the pressure off

Sometimes all you need is to stop taking it so seriously – we’re supposed to be enjoying these stupid creatures, aren’t we? Go gallop up a field. Ride to a pub with a mate. I don’t care – just do something novel, and bring some enjoyment back into this bottomless money pit that we call a sport. An easy way to do this can be to switch disciplines for a day – so dressage riders can shorten their stirrups and hop over a cross pole, and the show jumpers can swing their legs around in too-long stirrups and perfect their lateral work (and lets face it, you’ve been putting this off for months already, haven’t you?). You eventers are greedy aren’t you – hogging all the disciplines – so maybe you could put your reins in one hand and try neck reining? Or finally jump some of those hedges that you’ve been eyeing up on your hacks? You know you want to – just don’t take it too far. I thought that trying to jump my mum’s cob with no reins or stirrups was a genius idea until I found myself rather unceremoniously thrown into a fence. Know your limits I guess.

We put too much pressure on ourselves – and that’s a good thing when its driving passion and progress, but sometimes we just need to chill out a bit. Once we let go of that nagging feeling that we should always be doing something quicker, better, or just different, motivation often finds us again when we’re least expecting it.

I think the only thing left to say at this point is just be kind to yourself. We all feel like we’ve hit a wall at times, and that’s okay. Take a deep breath, make a plan, and enjoy yourself. The rest will sort itself out.

Am I the Problem?

You know the feeling. You’re in your lesson, your horse is cosplaying as Valegro, and everything seems to just work. You leave thinking, finally – I’ve got it. Then you get home… and suddenly you’re riding a giraffe, and your once-perfect circles are now wobbly squares.

So what changed? And more importantly – is it you?

Your Environment

The first thing that’s likely different about your lesson is your environment. You’ve probably boxed up or hacked to a dedicated location to focus and improve. Chances are the arena’s bigger than your one at home (if you’re lucky enough to have access to one), the footing is better, and overall you and your horse have travelled there for the sole purpose of this lesson.

Now consider that this is effectively a ‘workplace’ for you both – akin to going to the office. When you are in a dedicated workspace, your brain switches into ‘focus mode’, and a very similar thing happens with your horse too. Then, when you return home, you may associate this familiar location with comfort, perhaps monotony and, lets face it, a little bit of laziness. It’s a subconscious effect, but its impacts are very real.

Your Instructor

Now I will preface this section by saying we as riders would be nowhere without our fabulous instructors, however not everyone’s learning styles will gel with every instructor’s teaching styles. 

Some instructors use exercise-based teaching – extravagant pole exercises and drills to achieve their desired result, which tends to work for many riders who have a tendency to get stuck in their own heads. If this sounds like you, it’s likely because your instructor has skilfully curated an exercise that both encourages the horse to go correctly (whether that be through bending to create softness, or raised poles to encourage engagement), and is complex enough that your mind is occupied and you aren’t overthinking what you’re doing.

Another teaching style that works similarly to this one is instruction-based teaching -the ‘do this, do that’ style that tells you when you pull and when to kick and when to circle, but doesn’t take the time to explain the ‘why’. In the moment, this will feel fabulous. You’ll be riding like a pro and your horse will be going like one, and this will continue to work for you when you get home if you’re a logical person who enjoys having a system – you memorise what you need to do and when you need to do it until it becomes second nature.

Where both of these methods fall short is that, for riders (like myself) who need to understand the ‘why’, once you get home and you haven’t got that extra pair of eyes analysing and correcting your every move, everything falls apart. It felt so easy in the lesson, but now you feel, quite frankly, rather useless. This comes down to what we all rather vaguely refer to as ‘feel’. It comes more naturally to some people than to others, but if you’re reading this in despair because you don’t have the coveted ‘feel’, worry not – it is absolutely a learnable and teachable skill, and in fact most instructors will be able to break components of it down for you if you explain that you’re struggling to implement what you’ve learnt in lessons at home, and (humbly) ask them why they’re telling you to do certain things.

You

Now we ask the dreaded question – are you the problem? The unfortunate answer is that you may well be. Maybe you concentrated super hard in the lesson because you didn’t want to throw 50 quid away. Maybe you physically worked yourself well beyond the point of discomfort because you’re a teensy bit scared of your instructor. Maybe you just wanted to be the best in the group. But whatever the reason, you probably had more motivation to try your absolute hardest than you would in the rain at home, or after a hard days work, or when you know that no-one’s watching. And, simple as it sounds, these are all very real and very valid reasons for not giving 100% – you’re turning up consistently, and that’s what counts.

So maybe, next time you’re struggling with your leg yields and ready to sack it all in, just take a moment. Cut yourself some slack and think, what would my instructor say, and why? And then, simply try again.